Teaching Modesty {A Homeschool Mom’s Journal #3}

The Homeschool Mother's Journal

In my life this week…

I’ve really been doing a lot of thinking.

It was on the way home from piano lessons this week that it hit me. It was almost too overwhelming to drive…I just about started crying. But knowing I needed to get us home safely, while also stopping at the grocery store first, I pulled myself together…as we continued our day.

Questions/thoughts I have…

I was thinking about the way some people have interacted with my children. I was thinking about the very young girls I see walking around in short shorts, tight clothes, and tank tops. You see, it has been unusually warm here this week. The summer-like weather has caused people to pull out their summer clothes…and on our way home from piano lessons, we saw a lot of people outside in their summer attire.

I want my children to see true beauty. I don’t want them to buy into the idea that they must dress to impress or dress like everyone else. It saddens me when I think that someone could be telling my daughters that they look “sexy” when wearing something that the world would view as appropriate to wear…to please other people {this is what upset me so while driving…it just hit me…what others have said to them…and it became very important to me all of a sudden}.

“Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.” ~ 1 Peter 3:3-4 NIV

I have two teen girls…so I know how much fashion is a huge part of their lives. I’ve even seen my 8 year old son wanting to wear some of the things he sees other boys at his age wearing. It’s like whatever the “norm” is…that’s what kids want to wear. I saw a tie dye shirt at Target the other day…and I asked if tie dye was back in. To which my son replied, “Mom, I don’t go to school, I don’t know what’s in!” But really I think even home schooled kids know what’s in and what’s not. They do go to church and lessons with kids who are not home schooled. They do see what other kids are wearing…in their neighborhood and all around…and how others are wearing their clothes.

Now, you need to know…we’re pants wearing Christians…for the most part. But in the last couple of years, I’ve felt drawn to wearing more skirts…for whatever reason. I’ve come to enjoy wearing them and lately I fell God molding my heart to wear them more and more in public, as a sign of my Christian faith. This week…feeling more molding taking place…as I noticed more of the world…while driving down the road.

Last year about this time, all of the shorts…anything above the knee…was removed from our home. Over the year my husband and I have decided we need to make more of a stand when it comes to modesty with our family. We use a lot of discernment when helping our kids pick their clothes. And we don’t allow skin to be showing…cleavage, the midsection, or thighs. I wrote more about this…on my personal blog…here. There is a picture that spells out what we consider modest dress in our home.

Well, then this weekend…after telling my 15 year old daughter that I had bought myself two more {long} skirts online…and showing them to her…she says they are cute and asked if I would buy her more skirts since she only has one. That’s when I realized that the molding of my heart would have an affect on her heart, as well.

So, we headed over to eBay…to do a little resale shopping…and she finds this skirt… {type in “modest” in the search bar to guard yourself from the garbage on eBay}.

…and asks if we can get it. After confirming with her that she will in fact wear it…my heart was filled with a mother’s joy, as I see my own doings become almost like a good peer pressure on her. Then, she says, “I’m becoming more of a girly-girl”…something that would have been frowned upon in public school…that and being like your mom. {*snicker*}  =}

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I’m praying for…

God to reveal His Truths to us…and show us how He wants us to dress. And I’m praying that I can teach my kids…girls and boys…where true beauty comes from. And most importantly, I’m praying that my daughters take a stand against the world…and decide to show their true beauty…and not dress the way society says they should.

I see scores of young woman taking a stand against society…learning to dress more modestly. We need to applaud these girls. Teach our boys to appreciate true beauty…not the fake stuff they can see on T.V. or in movies. And we need to teach our daughters to dress in away that pleases God…not man. I’m praying for God’s help and guidance with this.

A woman’s heart should be so close to God that a man should have to chase Him to find her.” ~ C.S. Lewis

How do you teach your kids about modesty? Where do they learn about beauty?

Many blessed days teaching and learning,

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