Doing It All is Hard

 

Doing It All Is Hard

 

These days it just seems like everything and everybody is buying for my attention. Just when I get my to-do list all checked off… I am making another list. The saddest part is I don’t even have daily chores or the things someone else has asked me to do, on that list. Those just bounce around in my head on a daily basis… constantly nagging me to remember that I committed to yet another thing.

Then it happens again. I do it to myself really. I’m asked to help out… or {gasp}… I offer my services.

When will I learn? But nope I just say…

Sure, why not?!

Well you see, I’m one of those people who hates to let people down. Not quite a “people pleaser”… but almost. I just want to be kind, generous, and caring to others. Not to impress… just to be helpful. I love to encourage and support those closest to me. Do for someone as I know they would do for me.

 

The problem is… 

 

I have to realize that I cannot do it all. Trying to do it all just doesn’t work out for anyone.

My load has been quite heavy for some time. But when someone asks me to take more… I have a hard time saying that one word that keeps me out of this trouble in the first place.

 

No! No I cannot help. No explanation needed right?

 

Does that seem selfish? It does to me. I really do find it hard to be selfish. Seriously!

 

So then I think:

 

My friends need my help…

That person needs my attention…

They need me to do that for them…

I need to organize our homeschool…

My child needs more activities…

My kids need to be taught more… math… science… and history…

They are missing out on so much…

We are way off schedule…

Dishes are piling in the sink…

The house is falling apart…

The van needs an oil change and that one repair…

Oh, I wanted to get the taxes done really early this year…

This blog needs my attention…

My readers may feel abandoned…

The church needs me…

I must serve others…

I’m so selfish…

I really should do more…

I’m so lazy…

Oh, I forgot I was going to do that…

And that..

And that.

And the list goes on and on.

Can you relate?

 

How can I do it all?

 

I realized that I can’t. Things will and do fall through the cracks. Things won’t get done. Not in one day. People might need me… but they will manage without me. I have to learn to just let it go. All things will not fall apart because of me. Or without me.

 

What should I worry about?

Making money?

Or always doing for others?

 

Nope!

I prioritize things differently.

Spending time with my Father God. Just being still. Top. Of. The. List.

My children knowing the Gospel. Top of the list.

Catching behavioral issues that seem rooted in my child’s poor character {heart issues}. Also at the top.

Protecting my family by knowing what comes into my home… via books, TV, movies, and video games. Very high up there.

Being a godly example. Yep, and that.

 

Do you see my point?

 

Doing it all is hard. Give yourself some grace and mercy.

Remember what is really important in the end.

 

Many days growing and learning in Him,

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Comments

  1. I have struggled a lot with trying to do everything in the past. Or comparing myself to what everyone else is doing thinking I have to keep up with them. One day I told God I can’t do it all and He told me he never asked me to. That’s when I started laying my days at his feet each morning and asking what He wants me to do each day. I have to check in with the Father all the time to make sure I am following His will and not my own. Asking is this for His glory or my own. If you have time, listen to the Laura Story song I Can Just Be Me. It really hits it home. And this scripture: Jeremiah 1:5 Before I formed you in the womb I knew [and] APPROVED of you [as my chosen instrument], and before you were born I separated and set you apart, consecrating you; [and] I appointed you as a prophet to the nations. It’s nice to know we are all already APPROVED without even doing anything.

  2. Sarah says:

    I am so thankful you wrote this and shared your heart. When I opened my e-mail and read it-it really spoke to me. I feel like God spoke to me through you at the moment I needed to see this. I had an awful day yesterday and was just trying to hard to make everyone ekse happy-i really feel God tugging at my heart and telling me to stop.

    • You’re welcome! You blessed me for sharing this. I just felt led to share this… right away. I have many posts that I have started but never finished. I put them off because they are not a priority… doing it all is hard. This one I just felt a need to write and finish. So glad I listened to the Holy Spirit. Love that it helped you! :)

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